Anger is rarely the whole story. It is the fast, loud feeling that shows up in front of slower ones: hurt, fear, shame, exhaustion, feeling unheard. By the time you notice it, you have already snapped, gone cold, or said the thing you will replay for days.
Peace Love Wellness offers therapy for anger and emotional regulation across New York. The work is practical — skills for the moment things spike — and it also looks at what the anger has been trying to protect.
Wanting help with anger is not an admission that you are a bad person. It usually means you care about the people on the other end of it, and about how you feel afterward.
Anger moves faster than thought, so insight alone does not stop it. We work on concrete skills: noticing your early warning signs, slowing your body down, buying yourself a pause, and choosing what to do next.
Zaire Smalls, MHC-LP, uses CBT and DBT skills for emotional regulation. DBT skills in particular were built for emotions that come on fast and strong.
DBT Skills at Peace Love WellnessSkills work better when you understand what the anger is doing for you. For many people it guards something more vulnerable, or it is the one feeling that was allowed growing up. For others it is what chronic stress, burnout, or an old injury looks like from the outside.
Our approach is relational and trauma-informed, so we take the anger seriously without treating you as the problem.
Read About Our ApproachThis is individual therapy, tailored to you, rather than a structured anger management course. We do not provide certificates of completion, so if a court, employer, or school requires one, an anger management program is the right place to start.
Individual TherapyAll sessions are online for clients located in New York. Many clients use insurance. We are in-network with Aetna, Anthem / Empire BlueCross (including Excellus, Highmark, and out-of-state BlueCard plans), Carelon, Cigna, EmblemHealth, MagnaCare, Meritain, and NYSHIP / The Empire Plan. Coverage varies by plan and clinician, and we help clarify options before you begin.
Writing from the Peace Love Wellness blog on reactivity, conflict, and a nervous system that stays on guard.
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Read MoreCBT and DBT skills for anger and emotional regulation, with attention to what sits underneath, for teens ages 16+ and adults.
Currently accepting new clients
Builds coping skills for anger, stress, and reactivity at your pace, for teens ages 16+ and adults, in English or Spanish.
Currently accepting new clients
Sessions are online for clients located in New York. We review clinical fit, insurance, and current openings before you begin. Insurance & Fees · Get Started
Questions we hear from people who want a different relationship with their anger.
Yes. Therapy helps you notice anger building earlier, calm your body in the moment, understand what is driving it, and say what you need in a way people can hear. Most people see change in how often and how intensely they react, and in how quickly they recover.
No. Anger management classes are usually structured group courses, sometimes required by a court or employer. This is individual therapy tailored to you, and we do not provide certificates of completion. If you need one for a court, employer, or school, look for an anger management program that issues them.
Usually because the small thing is landing on top of something bigger: accumulated stress, exhaustion, feeling unheard, or an older hurt. A nervous system that is already on edge reacts to small triggers as if they were large ones. Therapy works on both the load and the reaction.
Zaire Smalls, MHC-LP, and Karen Garcia, MHC-LP, work with anger and emotional regulation, and both are accepting new clients. Zaire uses CBT and DBT skills. Karen offers sessions in English or Spanish. Both also see teens ages 16 and 17.
Many clients use insurance for therapy at Peace Love Wellness. We are in-network with Aetna, Anthem / Empire BlueCross (including Excellus, Highmark, and out-of-state BlueCard plans), Carelon, Cigna, EmblemHealth, MagnaCare, Meritain, and NYSHIP / The Empire Plan. Coverage varies by plan and clinician, and we help clarify your options before you begin.
You can learn to catch it sooner and to say what is underneath it. Tell us a little about what's been happening, and we'll help match you with a clinician who feels like the right fit.